Information for Adopting a Baby in Oklahoma
Imagine holding the baby of your dreams in your arms...
As you gaze into her deep blue eyes, waves of
gratitude overwhelm you and your heart swells with all the hopes
and desires you have
for this child. As she drifts off to sleep, you look toward the future.
You envision her first smile, spending warm, sunny days at the park,
and hearing her sweet voice say "Mama".
For years, Kara and her husband longed for a baby to fill their
empty arms. Through endless infertility treatments, cycle after cycle
ending with disappointment, each failed attempt made it a little
harder to try again.
When they had exhausted every medical option, and most of their
family savings, they turned to their one remaining hope.
Kara found her daughter through the miracle of adoption.
There is a baby out there for you!
Are you interested in learning more about adoption?
One out of every six couples in America is unable to conceive a
child after trying for a year. Some will go on to have a biological
child, others will not. And each year some 60,000 couples from all
walks of life will adopt because they share a belief that their lives
will not be complete without a child.
Adoption, like pregnancy or infertility treatments, comes with its
own journey, its own time frame, and its own price tag. Couples often
find themselves overwhelmed with information and questions as they
begin to research adoption, especially as they learn just how many
different options are available to them.
The good news is that you can adopt, safely
and successfully --
You can find the baby you've been dreaming of!
In the state of Oklahoma, most couples
should able to complete an adoption in under two years, however many
pitfalls that slow the adoption process or even put their adoption
in legal jeopardy. Just as with any new endeavor, it is vital that
you learn the basics before you spend valuable time and hard-earned
money toward your adoption.
Many families have found themselves led down a road of dreams, only
to be abandoned, without the resources to take another try at adoption,
and heartbroken over the realization that parenthood may never happen.
Tom and Nancy were one of these families...
How to Avoid Common Adoption Pitfalls
Tom and Nancy were a couple in their early forties, who had been
trying to conceive for four years. Due to their age and unexplained
infertility, their specialist finally encouraged them to pursue adoption.
They went home, opened their yellow pages, and called
the first adoption referral listed. This agency was very helpful
with the home study, something required in Oklahoma and all other
states, and answered all the questions the couple had. In fact, they
were so kind and professional, Tom and Nancy never thought to consider
that they should ask for references or research other professionals.
As the waiting process began, Tom and Nancy were patient, knowing
their baby would come. But when four years had passed with little
activity, they knew they had made a mistake, costing them money,
and precious, precious time.
Face it, most of us don't begin the adoption process because we
want to -- it is a miraculous blessing born out of desperate need.
It is this desperate need that unscrupulous people will take advantage
Many families find themselves learning about adoption after they
have already wasted valuable time and money on bad adoption plans,
scams, and frauds. Armed with some very basic knowledge, you will
have a huge advantage over other adoptive families and you will complete
your adoption far sooner.
Here are the top three adoption pitfalls:
1. If it sounds too good to be true, it is!
The reality is, you have to trust someone when it comes to your adoption.
How do you determine if someone is worthy of your trust? Beware
of anyone who promises something
that simply sounds too perfect. This may mean an extremely low
cost, very short wait time, or especially a multiple birth. This
is your adoption. You are putting your family into a position of
another individual and you need to know that you've done all you
can to protect your investment of time, money, and emotion.
2. Don't give money to anyone without verifying
Never give anyone money without
knowing more about who you are dealing with. Not only can you end
up losing the money, you may be putting yourself at legal risk. Consult
with your attorney or adoption professional before paying any pregnancy
or living expenses.
3. Research all adoption professionals you choose to work with.
Some adoption professionals may make promises that seem way out of
line with others you've spoken with. Research any adoption professional
before signing any agreement. Ask for references, contact the
Bureau, and read
any contracts thoroughly. Don't be shy about asking to speak
with past clients.
The Key to Adoption Success: Education
There is nothing more vital to your adoption than taking
the opportunity to learn all you can about the process, the personnel,
and the pitfalls in adoption. With knowledge, you will be able to
complete your family safely and successfully, while saving time and
money. We recommend that all Oklahoma families begin their
adoption journey by learning all they can. Here are the top three
ways that you can learn more about adoption:
1. Talk to People.
Many times, once you have found someone who has adopted or is an
adoption professional, you learn more about the reality of adoption.
If you are interested in speaking with a professional, such as
Lifetime Adoption or African
American Adoptions Online, pick up
the phone and give them a call. Ask them your questions and see
what they may recommend for your situation.
2. Attend a Meeting, either via teleconference or in
This is another way to learn about adoption and ways in which professionals
or support groups can help you through the process. Many times you
will meet other potential adoptive families and realize that you
are definitely not alone! To learn more about free adoption informational
meetings that are available in your area, visit this
3. A great way to begin is by reading.
There is a wonderful book that covers
answers most any questions prospective adoptive families may
have. It is written by, Mardie Caldwell, an adoption professional
20 years of experience and host of a radio program called Let's
Talk Adoption. The book is called AdoptingOnline.com and
is available online via the website,
as well as in local bookstores. It covers different types of
adoption available in Oklahoma, as well as over 1,200 resources
you get started.
Best Wishes to You!
Wherever your adoption journey leads
you, please accept our best wishes in hopes that you too will be
blessed by adoption.
If you have questions or would like more
information about your specific situation, we recommend that you
contact Lifetime Adoption. There is no fee to apply to their program
and they will be happy to answer any questions you have!
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